A Few Rules For Commenting on Blog Posts

commentThere are no hard and fast rules to blogging. However, when it comes to leaving comments on blog posts, I believe there are some guidelines that bloggers should follow. Here are a few rules for commenting on blog posts:

Read the post first. Before you decide to scroll down to leave a comment, I beg of you, please read (not skim) the whole post so that you know what it’s about. I see people leaving comments just to be leaving them, and it’s always obvious they haven’t read a single sentence of the post because their comment is either off-topic or a mere copy and paste of what someone’s already stated. Which brings me to my next rule…

Review other comments. If you’re reading a post that’s garnered a fair amount of comments, then what you have to say has probably already been stated. That’s why it’s important to read the other comments before leaving your own. If someone has already said what you wanted to say, you can either push the dialogue further by responding to that commenter’s comment or by finding something else to say about the post. It’s pointless to parrot what ten other people have already said because doing so doesn’t advance the discussion much.

Be nice about it. Most bloggers put in work to create meaningful content, so yes, we tend to be sensitive about our sh*t. If you don’t have anything nice to say about a blogger’s post, then close the tab and move along. This, however, should not be confused with disagreeing with a blogger. If you disagree with what a blogger has written, the comment section is not where you go to air your grievances about something she’s published on her blog. If the post she wrote was that personally offensive to you, either address the blogger in a private email or let it go.

Leave a link to your blog. I often go back and forth with myself about whether or not to leave my blog URL after a comment. Most of the time, I do leave a link to my blog because I want the blogger (and her readers) to check out my blog after reading my comment. I feel justified in doing so because I know that I rarely write hollow, one-line comments. Some have argued that leaving your blog URL at the end of your comment is unnecessary if your blog is already linked to your name. But my thought is this: If you write a thoughtful, well-crafted comment about the post and you’re a relatively unknown blogger who’s trying to get your name/blog out there, leaving a link to your blog should be acceptable. You’re just trying to get exposure for your blog while showing support to another blogger, and there’s nothing wrong with that. In blogging there’s a lot of give and take. So, if you want me to take the time to comment on your posts, then the least you could do is give me the space to promote my blog.

What rules for commenting on blog posts would you add to this list? Any rules mentioned above that you disagree with? I’m all ears. Leave your comment below.

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  • I agree with Candice. Acknowledge it but do it nicely as possible.

  • Email is a great way to do this if you can never think of anything different to add to the conversation. Email is more personal (and private), so you can just shoot the blogger a quick email letting them know that you enjoyed their post. Just try not to do that to every blogger or on every post you read. I hope this helps, Sonya!

  • I would.

  • hya21

    I got my first ever “you obviously didn’t read all the way through the post” comment recently. I’m still laughing – and even though I always make a point to respond to all my comments, it would probably be a waste of time to acknowledge it right?

  • Sonya

    As a new serious blogger, I rarely leave comments on other blogs (preventing me for sharing my blog info) especially when it’s a lot because I don’t particularly have anything different to add. I like the post and often really enjoy the blog. How do you suggest I let the blogger know?

  • Thanks, girl! It really burns my toast when people don’t read before commenting. I just don’t understand that. And I’m the same way when it comes to reading other people’s comments before leaving my own. If a few people have already said what I wanted to add, I’ll just refrain from commenting, and that’s one less comment the blogger has to worry about replying to.

  • No blogger has said anything to me directly about leaving my URL…yet. But, there are bloggers who remove URLs from comments before approving them, though that’s as much as I’ve seen.

  • Drea, have you had any bloggers say anything about leaving your URL after your comment. I often wonder if despite leaving a relevant, honest and thoughtful comment, the person who wrote the post will just think I’m trying to self-promote – which I guess I am in a sense, but that doesn’t mean my comment is not genuine. I think I’ll give it a go and see – as they say don’t ask permission, ask forgiveness! ;)

  • These are some great tips. It is annoying when people obviously did not read the post and comment with something that is not even connected to it. Personally, I always like to scroll through comments for these reasons: To see what other’s comments and/or opinions are (sometimes people make some great points about the topic being discussed), so that I don’t repeat a question that someone may have already asked (and received the answer) and to find new blogs to read (I like when people leave their blog address so thank you for bringing that up.) There are a lot of people that need these rules in their life ASAP.

  • Good tips! There definitely needs to be balance between sharing who you are/being transparent and over sharing. I don’t think people really get that.

  • Aww thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, Jennifer. I think it’s good that you’re getting into the habit of leaving your URL after your comment – it helps with self-promotion, which a lot of bloggers struggle with. Even some of the seasoned ones!

  • Thanks so much, Zena. I appreciate that.

  • Jennifer Pearson

    Awesome points! I think it’s important to leave well-crafted comments because the author has put a lot of effort into the post so it’s only right you respond in the same manner. Before reading your post I was hesitant to leave my url in my comment, but it is a great way to get your name out there! It allows the author and other commenters to heck out your posts and courteously comment on your work. I try and make it a habit to read previous comments but would never want to leave negativity even if I disagree. Taking it up with the author privately is always a great idea. I would hate to read comments full of anger and tearing someone down. Fabulous post Drea! I truly enjoyed it!


  • Drea – I picked up on the leaving my blog after thoughtful comments from you, before reading this post. I noticed that I related to what you said and since you always left your website, I ended up clicking on your link. Had you not done that, I probably would not have ever landed on your blog. I think it’s especially important if you are commenting on a new website that you dont visit as often. Great feedback as usual. Gotta take pointers from the best :)

  • LMAO! Those copy/paste comments are the worst. People who leave those comments always get blacklisted on my blog – I don’t have time for that. I’ve noticed that since I now moderate my comments and they’re not approved until I say so, the spammy comments have gone down, for sure.

  • Nice points! I’ve noticed, comments that seem more like spam, tend to be ignored –even by small blogs. So it’s definitely important to read and digest a post, then communicate whatever is real and positive to you. Perhaps it’s already been said before, in a different way; but that’s likely to be the case if it’s a general style, etc., post and I wouldn’t mind. What I dislike is “copy/paste” comments, that say ‘great outfit!’, when I was reviewing music.

  • Thank you, Andrea. Yes, you totally should. I don’t see anything wrong with it as long as you’re leaving thoughtful comments.

  • Thanks, Tamara!

  • You should’ve started with this post, Bobbie! Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.

  • Bobbie

    This is so on point!!!! However, I never leave my link to my blog. But you made sense as to why a blogger should. I may just start doing that. Thanks for sharing, Drea!

  • Well said!

  • I normally don’t leave my blog link when I comment but I should more often. Great post Drea!!


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