We all feel a bit unsure of ourselves from time to time which can cause us to lose out on great opportunities. Sometimes we shy away from being confident because we associate it with being arrogant but, what is confidence?
According to the Advanced English Dictionary and Thesaurus, confidence is defined as “freedom from doubt or belief in yourself and your abilities.” On the other hand, arrogance is defined as “overbearing pride which is evidenced by a superior manner”.
Being confident doesn’t mean you’re arrogant. Here’s how to have believe in yourself and your abilities while not being “superior” over others.
Be In The Know
Gone are the days when we had to sit down to read a newspaper every morning and watch the evening news to know what’s going on around us. We now live in an age of technology, where information is just a click away. Sometimes we aren’t confident because we feel inadequate when we’re in a crowd of people. Being aware of what’s going on locally and on an international scale can seriously boost your confidence because you can add your two cents to important conversations. Being in the know doesn’t mean only catching up with the news on your cellphone or tablet when you’re on the go but also reading books that enrich your life. Here are some of my favorites:
The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
The Winner Stands Alone by Paulo Coelho
Dress The Part
We’ve all heard the saying, “Dress how you want to be addressed.” The way we dress speaks volumes to people we meet for the first time before we say a word. Although we’re free to dress as however we want, the way we dress is the way we’re perceived. Dressing the part isn’t about expensive clothes or makeup. It’s about taking the time to look polished, cleaned and prepared. Dress confident to feel confident.
Think About Your Posture
How you carry yourself affects both how you feel about yourself and how others view you. Poor slouchy posture makes you look unsure of yourself and makes it difficult for people to approach you. Walking with your back straight and shoulders out even when you’re nervous about something makes you look confident. It’s about how your body language communicates with others. Good posture conveys confidence.
Assess Your Circle Of Friends
Our friends play a major role in shaping the kind of people we become so don’t surround yourself with people who constantly put you down. Surround yourself with a lot of positive energy. If you have friends that only encourage you to lie, be disrespectful and not make plans for the future, they’re toxic and you need to ditch them. Friends should be people that bring out the best in you and compliment your good qualities. Good friends build your confidence while bad friends tear it down. If you want to be more confident then it’s about time you start pruning some of those toxic friendships.
Fake It Till You Make It
If all else fails and you just can’t get comfortable enough in your own skin just yet, fake it till you make it. That doesn’t mean you should be fake and lie about who you are but simply make up for your lack of inward confidence through your outward appearance. Even when you aren’t sure about something or you have a presentation and you’re shaking, prepare well and put up a good show. Act confident until you get the hang of it. Believe in yourself and what you can do and don’t let others put you down.
Those are my five tips on how you can become more confident. My confidence levels are still a work in progress too so I would love to hear from you in the comment section below on what has helped you to become more confident.