6 Ways To Manage Your Anxiety
Am I the only one who’s been going through it lately?
Between my cross country move and receiving a little money to start working on my dreams I’ve been really stressed lately. My thoughts are all over the place, I have a weird feeling in my chest, and I feel like I’m not in control.
If you’re feeling that way too, it’s probably a sign of anxiety which is normal but still tough to deal with. My anxiety stems from the overwhelming amount of things I feel like I have to do. I also realize that all of my excuses are gone. My excuses were my safe space so excuse me while I spaz for a minute and get myself ready for my season of doing, learning, and winning.
I don’t have an anxiety disorder and I’m not writing this post for those who do. If you feel like you have a real anxiety disorder I hope you speak to a professional about it. While these tricks can help those of us who are feeling extra stress and anxiety in a certain season of our life, it might not be helpful if you feel that way all the time and there is no shame in therapy.
Now that I have the very necessary disclaimer out of the way, I want to share some of the ways I’ve been battling my anxious feelings lately.
Create A To Do List & Then DO SOMETHING
I decided to freelance part time while I building my new(ish) business and today I found myself on the couch reading a book during my free time. I started to get really anxious as I was reading and my thoughts kept straying to my business plan. I KNOW I have too much to do and I should get to it instead of reading but… bad habits.
Writing a few blog posts was on the list and now that I’m writing I feel so much better.
I created my to do list by first writing down 3 of the most important priorities for the rest of the month and then writing down the things I need to do to handle those priorities. My to do list isn’t as scary as it seemed in my head now that it’s down on paper and I know what to focus on because I prioritized.
I try to start each day off with meditation but life doesn’t always work out perfectly. If I don’t meditate in the morning I carve out a little time in my day to sit and clear my head. It took a while for me to learn to mediate properly but once I did it changed my life. I created a video detailing how I taught myself to meditate here. I find it easier to keep calm about all the things going wrong in my life if I take some time to zone out.
Read A Book
If your anxiety isn’t directly related to ignoring the things you have to do (hello me) then reading a book will probably take your mind off things. I use this trick once my workday is complete or when I can’t fall asleep at night. I think fiction is much better when you’re anxious because you’ll get caught up in the story vs nonfiction where you’re probably reading less for pleasure and more to learn something.
I usually have to force myself to go to the gym but I always feel better afterwards. I never regret a workout because exercise releases endorphins and endorphins relax me and make me happy.
If you have someone to call you can also do some NSFW exercise if you know what I mean. 😏
Take A Walk
Walking generally calms me. I’m lucky to live in a city with trails and parks but I always found really beautiful and quiet places to walk when I lived in rural SC as well. Walk down nearby streets, get lost in nature, or people watch if that’s your thing. I like to make up scenarios about the people or animals I pass when I go on walks. Yes, it’s weird but it works and it keeps my mind off my own problems.
Talk To Someone
It might be helpful to speak to someone even if you don’t think you have an anxiety disorder. Sometimes verbalizing your feelings to friends or family is enough and other times you need a professional. If you’re looking for a therapist check out Therapy For Black Girls.
How do you manage your anxiety?