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Sometimes Isolation Is Necessary For Growth

Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and felt weird looking at your reflection? Do you feel uncomfortable being by yourself at times? Are you always picking up your phone to refresh your social media rather than sitting in silence?

If you’ve answered yes to all these questions, I’m here to tell you that it’s time for you to get comfortable with being alone and enjoying you. It’s okay for you to enjoy the company of others, but you should feel the same way towards yourself. At the end of the day, you have to appreciate and love the skin you’re in. Trust me you can’t skip the process of self-love and isolation.

As humans, our initial reaction is to run against fear and run against loneliness because we fear to face our own trials and areas of growth which will force us to change and shift into a better person.

The idea of growth sounds terrific, but no one truly wants to go through the process because it requires you to be accountable for you and your baggage. It requires you to learn lessons that for you so long you continuously dodge. Now you’re at a point, where the unlearned lessons and circumstances have become larger and harder to overcome because you refused for so long to face your demons.

I’m going to keep 100 with y’all. Until you face yourself and your baggage. Everything you touch will turn sour. The relationships in your life, your job, your personal goals, and aspirations. This will continue to happen until you comfortable with being uncomfortable. It will continue to repeat until you realize that isolation isn’t a punishment, but a process that requires stillness to be the person you so much desire.

Sometimes, we get so caught up in the hype of everyone’s lives, the parties, and unrealistic expectations of society. We forget that we need love and nourishment for ourselves. Why are you filling up everyone else’s tank, but you’re on E? Who’s going to fill you up with love and fulfillment? The answer is you, hun. Take the time to unpack your crap, unlearn what you need to unlearn, and make space for the you that you feel from within. Stop being so afraid of the person you’re going to become or how people may feel. Honey, you’re the sugar honey iced tea with a bag of chips.

Below, I want to share a few things I’ve used to help me move towards Isolation for growth. Everyone is different, but I hope with these tips you can start formulating your routine to get closer to you!

Meditation

Before this year, reflection wasn’t a thing in my life, but I’ve realized that sitting in silence with my thoughts helps me to dive into myself. Mediation has enabled me to analyze some of the flaws, good, and bad habits, and the relationships around me. The most important thing to do is personalize what mediations looks like for you. It can be as simple as you sitting in silence for ten minutes in the morning to set the tone for the day and talk to yourself before jumping into the world.

Fasting

Sometimes, we have to fall back from habits and situations that make us less than great. For example, it can be as simple as not going out every weekend, spending less money, putting your phone down more often, so you’re not comparing yourself to others on social media. It can be anything that distracts you for you. Personally, there are moments when social media can be a trigger for me, so I make sure that I don’t use my phone first thing in the morning because I know how it’ll make me feel. There are other times where I have to say no to going out because the energy and money it takes to go out, I can use towards myself.

Do What Makes You Happy

Seriously, figure out what you like to do and start working on perfecting your craft. The word isolation isn’t a bad thing; it just means you’re focusing on your strengths and weakness. For example, if you love to work out, figure out a way to incorporate working out into your life more and capitalize on it. Maybe find different activities that you enjoy and challenge yourself to do it solo, like going to the movies, going out to eat and sitting out the bar and talking to a complete stranger.

Find An Outlet

The process of isolation can be a bit overwhelming, and it’s so easy to get in your head with fears and doubts. Make sure you have someone on standby to help you remember this process is for the greater good of you. We all can use a little boosting and some insight outside of ourselves. It’s okay to reach out for help and talk to someone.

You deserve to be the best version of you. Life is just too short to be a bootleg version of yourself. The sooner you isolate, the quicker you’ll grow, and those who love and support you will remain. Others will disappear naturally, and that’s okay because it’s all a part of the process.